After an abortion is a complex emotional time for many women. Feelings of relief combined with sudden waves of self-doubt, shame or anger can mark the days that follow. Some women find it helpful to talk with someone, especially if they felt rushed to make the decision, feel abandoned by family members or friends, insecure about the future, or have unmet spiritual needs. Often women recognize that the crisis in their life that preceded the abortion still challenges them, making it difficult to cope with their feelings. At times like these, women need friends, someone to listen and help sort out the feelings they may have after an abortion.
It is true that some women want to forget about the abortion and move on with their lives as if nothing happened. In the beginning of the post-abortion days, this helps some women manage their many feelings. But if the day comes, when this no longer satisfies and the memories of the abortion make the challenges of daily life painful and overwhelming, then at times like these, women need friends.
We are the Community of Jesus, the Living Mercy, a community of women and men, some of whom have also experienced abortion, and who have been trained to help others in the days and years that follow. We can talk on the phone. Email. We can meet at our home called Bethesda House of Mercy. We have priests trained by us who are available for direction and confession, and we have a psychologist and a therapist who understands how to help without minimizing what you feel.
If you are feeling guilty, remember, all is not lost. All is not hopeless. It’s true that healing takes time, but we are here to help.
It might feel strange to reach out to someone you don’t know, but that’s a pretty normal feeling. We understand that reaching out for help isn’t easy. We hope that just knowing that we are here will be a first step towards healing.